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The pandemic has changed things in more ways than one but this past year, in a surprising turn of events, it got people more serious in their pursuit of love and not just lust. In fact, a new study even confirmed that people who meet on dating apps are actually keener to commit to each other than those meeting offline! And because of it, slow dating is as popular as ever right now!
Slow dating is…
Exactly what it sounds like. It’s when you take your time getting to know someone to create a deeper connection for a better chance of success long-term.
Brides talked to Dr. Christopher Jones, PsyD and sex therapist to dig into slow dating.
“I have heard from so many people that they are tired of being alone and I think the isolation of lockdown has really forced a lot of people to recognize that. Before the pandemic, many people lived busy lives with lots of social activities that made serious relationships not a priority. However, when you strip away all of those variables the focus and need changes. I believe there is a psychological aspect to it and it is very simple: no one wants to go through a difficult event alone. So it makes sense that people are wanting more serious relationships during this time.”Dr. Jones
Why should you slow date?
According to Dr. Jones, when we date a little slower it lets us make informed and practical decisions that increase the longevity of the relationship.
“Our intimacy levels and needs change and at some point, you will need to pay attention to the characteristics of your partner that you may have overlooked due to attraction.”Dr. Jones
However, if you’re looking for a step-by-step guide on the right way to slow date, there is none because there is no ‘right time’ to get intimate. Getting intimate at the pace that you and your partner are comfortable with is what’s important so just follow that! Some people may choose to wait until marriage, others after a couple dates, and some after one; yes for sexual autonomy!
How do you slow date?
“I recommend a number of things such as dates over FaceTime or Zoom,” suggests Dr. Jones. “Maybe spend time cooking and having dinner together virtually. Or even watching a movie virtually. The benefit is that you can really get to know a person on a deep emotional level when you are not physically together.”
So…what are you even waiting for?! Hop on Clover and see what you’re missing in this new dating world!
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