Author: Belinda Anderson
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Being in college is both exciting and scary. You don’t know anyone, you’re lucky if you have someone in your neighborhood who attends the same college as you. But all in all, college life is a gate opened for freedom and exploration, not just at the educational level but also the personal and interpersonal level.
Engagement with sex is also prominent in college, and like most things, everyone who attends college has a different sexual background. Some are inexperienced, while others have a say in things, and that’s ok. College is an exciting chapter to better know your sexuality and stir intimacy. But before you jump into the wagon, let’s emphasize that there are ways to have a good sex life during college, which can lead to better and safer sex.
Know Yourself First
You can’t engage with sex and any other form of the intimate relationship if you don’t know yourself well. You can start by identifying your sexual preference, whom you’re comfortable to engage with, and how you want your sexual lifestyle to go.
If you can clearly state your sexual preference (homo and hetero), you can identify to yourself who you want to be with. And it starts from there. It’s tricky in college, and it will be hard to tell people what you want if you don’t know what you want.
If you have a lot of experience, things might be easy, but it doesn’t mean it will happen all the time. If you’re less experienced and still rely on sex toys, such as the Satisfyer Pro 3, to enjoy yourself, there’s no shame in that. Masturbation is one step to knowing yourself more.
Foreplay Is Important
Engaging with sex is tricky. Some people want to dive in right away with the scene, while others want to take it slow. We can suggest talking to your partner or at least get to know more about them. Also, inform them how foreplay is essential for you. Foreplay is like stretching before having a run or doing some exercise. If you don’t do it, you might pull something odd along the way.
Also, foreplay sets the mood and prepares your body for something that’s going to happen. As they say, the best foreplay leads to better sex.
Protection Is a Personal Preference
It’s best to remember that using protection is highly recommended during college. And as much as we want to enjoy sex, we also don’t want to disappoint a parent, a college sponsor, or ourselves, due to unwanted pregnancies or STIs.
However, it’s best to emphasize that choosing what kind of protection to use is also a personal preference. If your protection of choice is a condom, there’s nothing wrong with that.
If you have ovaries and want to keep the pregnancy risk low, being on birth control would be the best thing to do. However, remember that birth control does not protect you from STI’s.
Whatever choice you make to ensure that you’re safe and still enjoying a great sex life, don’t be afraid to do it, and your partner must respect that at all times.
Safe Sex Is a Must
As mentioned, practicing safe sex should start in college. And if you have identified which type of protection you’re most comfortable using, you can enjoy a safe sexual engagement. Not only do these protections prevent pregnancy, but condoms can also protect you from potentially contracting diseases, such as HIV and STIs, which are incredibly common illnesses for individuals with an active sex lifestyle.
Being upfront and straightforward about your sexual lifestyle is not a bad thing, but it also entails a lot of responsibility to take good care of your health. Sex can be rewarding, but if not done right, consequences will indeed pile up.
Choose The Right Place To Do It
If you want to truly enjoy the pleasure of good sex while in college, be mindful of the places where you want to do it. Yes, it’s exciting and kind of kinky to do it in public places, such as in the secret spots in the library or in the comfort rooms. But if you want to experience great sex, choosing the right place matters.
You can do it in a car if you own one but be careful of the peeping eyes, especially when you park in public spaces. Getting a cheap motel or drive-ins are ideal. One of the best choices is a dorm room, which can be easily found on college campuses. If your roommate is out during the weekend, notify them that there’s someone who’ll be crashing down in your room. With this, you can share a bed without spending a dime.
Do It With a Clear Head
Having sex when sober is way better than doing it drunk. Yes, college life is full of club parties, and getting drunk is not a new story at all. But if you want to enjoy good sex, it’s best to do it with a clear head. Being drunk will not only lead you to perform poorly, but you also won’t exactly know what to do. What’s worse is that you might forget everything and unpleasant things could have happened.
Things like sexual assault, sexual assault accusations, accidental pregnancy, viral videos, vomiting, and peeing on the sheets. Well, the list goes on, and you don’t want all of it to happen during your college life. Keep it low and try to avoid sex when drunk!
College life has always been treated like a new chapter in someone’s life. It calls for a higher sense of responsibility and accountability for yourself. This is also an opportunity to get to know yourself, the environment you’re in, your character, and maybe a good year to find someone you’re comfortable being with!
College life is a door to get to know your sexual health and lifestyle even better. But to fully enjoy a good sex life during college, it’s best to heed some precautions, explore safe sex, use protection, and be mindful of your every action. Sex can really be rewarding if done right. If not, be ready to deal with the consequences you’ll be accountable for.
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Editor’s note: With COVID-19, things are a bit different this year, however these important tips will come in handy when life is not so ‘unprecedented’!
Belinda is a 42-year-old married mother of three who lives in Naples, Florida. While staying at home to raise her children, she began to write articles and blogs for various outlets. She was raised in a strict, Christian home, but has since found more peace with a more spiritual approach to life and health. A strong believer in natural and alternative medicine, energy healing, and total wellness, she stumbled on the health benefits of the female orgasm quite by accident. Since then, she has often written pieces that help inform others about the benefits she discovered. Belinda also enjoys taking care of her home and family, and often jokes that she is a bit of a Stepford wife… with a wild side. In her free time, she loves to spend time at the beach with her family, host parties and BBQ’s, and work outside in one of her many flower gardens.
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