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In a recent episode of The Michelle Obama Podcast, Michelle, one half of the power-couple of the century, dished out some really important dating advice for those looking to find love in 2020.
And yes, she is qualified to give dating advice because have you SEEN her and Barack’s marriage? Sign me up, right now!
The former First Lady said that if we treated finding a partner the same way we’d assemble a basketball team, we’d have more successful marriages and here’s why:
“Because if you’re looking at a team, the people you want to win with, then number one you want everybody on your team to be strong, right? You don’t want any weak links, you don’t want somebody that you can dominate, you don’t want somebody who’s kind of a loser. Also, if you’re on a team, you’ve got to be able to do everything, especially in basketball, it’s like, you would never pick somebody that says, ‘I only dribble. I don’t shoot, I don’t defend, I just dribble.'”
She continued: “You want LeBron [James]. You don’t want the guy, third row on the bench, who didn’t make the team, but we often don’t think about that.”
“What you’re supposed to say, is, ‘I have married LeBron. My version of LeBron.'”Michelle Obama
But just because you find your Lebron, doesn’t mean the relationship won’t have its lows.
“There were times that I wanted to push Barack out of the window. And I say that, because it’s like you’ve got to know the feelings will be intense. But that doesn’t mean you quit,” she said. Not gonna lie, we bet this is especially true if you’re this couple who’s been married (yes! To the same person!) for 79 years (who are now officially the oldest married pair in the world!)
“Barack and I have been broken off and on, throughout our marriage, but we have a very strong marriage. And if I had given up on it, if I had walked away from it, in those tough times, then I would’ve missed all the beauty that was there as well.”
One way to narrow your focus on a long-term partner is by slowing dating down, she says
“Do you want to build something with someone? There’s no magic way to make that happen, except getting the basics of finding somebody, being honest about wanting to be with them, to date them seriously, to plan on making a commitment, to date them, seeing where it goes, and then making it happen,” Obama explained. “You can’t Tinder your way into a long-term relationship.”
Which means that taking your time to get to know people on dating apps through prolonged texting conversations or hopping on a live video date on Clover is one way to find to find your Lebron.
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